Porn is giving me great pleasures, I feel like I am in heaven for sometime, after a days boring work in this tough world, I need to see those wonderful bodies to relax, its a great world, What is wrong with it? Why quit porn?
This is an interesting question, I asked this to myself for a long time, why quit porn? If you strongly are religious, then there is a reason for you to quit porn, because its anti-religious, most religions hate porn. but what if if you are not religious?
If you are not religious (like me), then why quit porn? Why turn your back to this wonderful pleasure?
I had this question for many years, and I continued with porn, its only years later I figured that porn kills, I am not telling vague, there are strong reasons. I'll list few things here which affects the daily life and thus overall life.
- It Kills daily routine.
- it kills the drive to success.
- It increases anxiety.
- It reduces self esteem
- It affects relationships
- It affects sexual health.
- It damages functioning of brain
It Kills daily routine.
When I start porn in night, I think about watching it for few hours (say 2 hours) but when it gets around two hours, I may see a new beautiful girl, or some bizarre acts that I could not resist for, so I think that I'll stop after that scene/porn-star. After watching, I want to watch more of her or something special, so time keeps ticking, when I realise that its too late, it maybe morning 5AM or 6AM, so at 6, I start to sleep.Usually in the next morning, I cannot do anything on time, energy-less, tired, everywhere I will be late, or I am on hurry and anxious. Keeping a routine is impossible if one is addicted to porn, Porn Addiction kills time-management and daily routine.
It kills the drive to success.
In porn, one is getting relaxed or happy by sensations, certain parts of our body release certain chemicals when watching porn which gives us pleasure, so we are happy, we become happy by porn. Seems good, but its not good, its a trouble.
How people who does not felt in the trap of porn addiction finds happiness? Or how the ancient people (people lived before porn) found happiness?
They find happiness by developing certain social skills and by relating and socialising, with porn, one gets happy by artificial sensations so one does lose the drive to go out and socialise, he gets everything inside in his cosy room. Then why go out?
This is OK if one can stay his entire lifetime inside his room. But its not possible in practical life, in real life, one must go out. And one needs these skills to be developed at a certain level to experience life properly. People started porn in their young age of their life certainly have problems of their underdeveloped social skills. Their lives become unfulfilled because of incompetence. Porn kills a man's natural vital skills and drive.
It increases anxiety
As you all know, porn is a close friend of cool emotions like shame, guilt, fear, and anxiety
It reduces self esteem
For certain things, the ‘actual' is slightly different from theory, some people ask what porn does bad? Why quit pleasure? But if one observe what happens to them closely one finds some truths, the truths that theoretically cannot be proved.
Whenever we do something privately that we feel like little nasty, like watching bizarre porn, it has an impact on our emotions, we don't know why we feel like that, or the reason of that feeling, but there is a feeling, this ‘unknown feeling' creates a tension inside and it leaves one guilty unconsciously that leaves one feel bad thus increases his anxiety. This feeling severely affects one's self-esteem because with every interaction with some other, he feel something not correct, so after each interaction/conversation/meeting with somebody, the ‘internal unknown feeling' makes one feel inferior. A porn addict loses his self-esteem day by day.
Whatever one do to ‘believe' that porn is good, this ‘unknown feeling' remains. Because the very thing that gives this ‘unknown feeling' is the thing that gives pleasure from porn.
It affects relationships
How many relationships are ended only because of porn? IMO, one of the major cause of break-ups is porn, With porn, one's natural attraction to his mate reduces, he just start acting ‘love' with no real passion inside, most girls pick this tendency early, girls do not like guys who does not interested to them. Girls like guys with madness for them.
How can a porn addict be mad to a girl? Or even interested to her? Porn addict is watching wonderful bizarre acts daily which cant be imagined with his girlfriend or spouse. Naturally girls get depressed with the attitude of porn addict, and in many cases, this is the stage girlfriend/spouse know about her beloved's porn addiction, can break-up be delayed any longer?
Porn affects relationship. Not only relationships with girlfriends/spouses, but towards anybody, I found my natural tendency to relate to anybody is much affected by my porn addiction. I just think to go to my porn room and enjoy there than relating with pals.
Slowly one loses capacity to effectively relate.. another strong reason to quit porn.
It affects sexual health
Frequent masturbation creates erectile problems. Keeping penis erected for long time creates tension in testicular tissues. This can create benign prostatic hyperplasia or BPH. This is common case in porn addicts, many porn addicts may not notice it because the symptoms are not shown at initial stages. But if one observe, one can find that he have little irritations while urinating and occasional traces of blood (RBC) or pus cells in urine.
Get your urine tested for RBC and pus cells, and if your urine contains it, its the early stage of benign prostatic hyperplasia. If you are a keen porn watcher and masturbator looking at porn, get your urine tested ASAP. I am not exaggerating, 8 out of 10 porn addict must have either prostatic infection or benign prostatic hyperplasia.
This is one common case I told, several types of sexual health issues occur by ‘cool' porn habits.
It damages functioning of brain
This is the greatest danger of porn addition. Brain damage.
Addicting to porn can cause a change in our body and brain chemistry. Our body releases certain chemicals when watching porn which gives us great pleasures (the pleasure porn addict uses to escape from the world).
Body releases chemicals such as dopamine, endorphins, adrenaline, and oxytocin. Constant ‘feeling' of these chemicals can alter the way one feel. Cocaine does the same, There is compelling evidence that porn alters our biological systems just like drugs do.
Due to the constant ‘feeling' of these chemicals for pleasure, one starts using it for ‘feeling' these chemicals. Not for watching the girls. The primary motivation changes. But this happens unconsciously, unconsciously we feel the urge to watch porn to maintain the newly created need for these chemicals, so body has to produce these chemicals more and more, brain need it more often than usual, after living some time like this, a porn addict can lose his brain capacity significantly.
Thanks for reading, I'll be grateful if this help you to lead a better life with better habits.
