Lot of people support porn, they know from inside that porn does harm in their lives, but they don't oppose porn and they don't like the people who oppose porn. Why?
Why they support porn?
Because porn gives something to them. Porn satisfies them, Porn relieves them, Porn gives happiness to them. So naturally they support porn, they need the happiness porn gives, for this happiness, they are ready to suffer, whatever damage porn make in their lives, they watch porn again and again.
Porn is the greatest need for them, why?
The answer lies in lot of factors; I discuss the main things here.
- Repressed emotions.
- Stress in daily life.
- Unfulfilled need for affection.
- Pessimism and lack of hope
Repressed emotions.
To experience life properly, one needs tremendous freedom, with freedom one enjoys, and all of us want to enjoy, nobody wants sorrow.
But in social living, one has to live in certain patterns, and there is no escape from it. In childhood, one has to go to school, as you and I know, many children hate it. In adulthood, one has to go to a job, most adults hate their jobs.
Society compels us to live in certain patterns. We can't blame society for that, because this is necessary for society to function well (until we figure out a better system). We have to repress ourselves to follow these patterns. Daily we do this. Repression, I am not talking about all people, there are few people who enjoy their work, truly enjoyed their school days etc, but for many, going to work in the morning is not amazingly thrilling, many hate it, they hate it for lot of reasons, but they have to go to work, they do things they don't like, they repress.
These repressed feelings create tension inside which we may not aware consciously, one has to release this accumulated tension to be free and easy. Many people don't know the good ways to release it; they haven't developed necessary skills to release these tensions. To release these tensions, they need a way.
There porn becomes friend. Porn gives great help to release the tension by letting them feel the ‘feel good chemicals' which is produced in the body while watching porn. Or the sensations female bodies produce in their heads. They find what they needs. Release.
This repressed emotion is the main reason behind bizarre rough porn. The people who repress more tend to like rough and bizarre porn. Seeing someone suffer makes them happy, this is because of the suffering they carry themselves. They want to see more people in suffering which let them feel good of themselves.
Stress in Daily life.
As I told earlier, a few enjoy their job, most are compelled. Compelled for for actions in their lives. Compulsion creates stress, and stress creates anger and negative thoughts. Anger and negative thoughts affects their relationship to another. Damages in relationships makes one isolated, isolation blocks the ways of constructive stress releases.
So one moves to destructive ways to release stress. They go to things like drugs and porn.
Usually porn addicts get stressed more because of their underdeveloped social skills to relate with others, relating with others and being in compassion is essential for anybody to effectively release the stress, so lack of social skills multiplies one's stress levels.
To relieve stress, one is going back to porn.
Unfulfilled need for affection.
Mostly porn addicts are the kind of people who don't posses great skills to attract and keep a girlfriend of their choice and achieve their affection and love. Girls like heroes. Many of us are not heroes. So we don't get what we needs, affection. This lack of affections creates tension and sorrow.
Here also we depend on porn.
Pessimism and lack of hope.
Did you observe pessimists? Observe… if you are a pessimist, then it's easy. You can observe yourself. Pessimists carry great stress in themselves, because of their lack of trust to anybody or anything; they have to take care of everything themselves. Lot of things in head. Always being in great stress.
Pessimists carry lot more stress in themselves than average man. To release this stress, most depend on porn.
These are the main reasons which make porn fascinating. Understanding the deep reasons behind the need of porn help you to quit porn more effectively.
I'll be grateful if this post help you to quit porn and negativity. And please keep an eye on ‘donations' button.:)
