If getting your ex girlfriend back is your aim, then I am sorry to say that the odds of that happening are pretty small, and that is being optimistic.
The truth is that most guys haven't got a clue about what they should do, when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back. I'm sorry to be blunt, but when you see the tactics a lot of guys use when they are trying to get an ex back, it can be really pathetic to watch.
Anything that they shouldn't do, they do, this just ends up with your ex disliking you even more. If you are serious about getting back your ex, you need a plan.
If you really want any chance to get your ex girlfriend back then you have to do all you can to avoid the following familiar patterns.
First of all you need you need to take your time. I know you will be thinking "But I miss her, and I want her back as soon as possible, because my life sucks without her". Stop this thinking right now!
Do you in your wildest imagination, really think that if you go to your girlfriend a couple of days after splitting up, and tell her that you have changed, she will believe you? She is not stupid, and treating her like she is will not help you to win her back.
Give her some space and time to think. Don't forget that she will be thinking about the relationship as well. She cannot do this clearly, if you are pleading, begging, and crying at every occasion. She will also expect you to try and get her back, so if you do the opposite of what she is expecting, then she will be wondering why. You may think how that is helping you?
Well, the fact is that she will be thinking of you, which is good, because you are on her mind.
Oh, another thing you need to think about is contact. Do not keep bugging her with phone calls, text messages, or pathetic letters. This will just annoy her, and make her think that she has made the right decision in dumping you.
I know it is hard to not make contact, I know that you miss her, I know that you are devasttaed, and I know that you feel lonely and depressed. But you need to keep this feelings locked away, and not heap them on your ex girlfriends head. Remember that these are your feelings, and trying to share them with her, is not going to make her want to run back to you.
Try to avoid contact for at least 2 weeks. Do this and I can guarantee that she will not stop thinking about you over that 2 week period. The odds are extremely high, that she will contact you first. She will be curious as to why you haven't been in touch. She will be thinking that perhaps you wanted her to finish with you. She will be wondering what you are doing.
Believe me when I tell you that, she will be thinking of you a lot, and this is what you want to happen if you want your girlfriend back.
When she gets in touch with you, it will probably be under the pretence of asking how you are. The truth is that she doesn't care how you are, all she wants to know is why you are not missing her, and why you are not upset.
At this stage you are in a powerful position, because there will be confusion in her mind, and it is this confusion that you need to manipulate to your advantage. This is a real window of opportunity forgetting your ex girlfriend back, so don't blow it.
