After a break-up, it is safe to assume that the one thing you will desire, above any other, is to win your ex girlfriend back. You are probably drowned in misery and too much pain and all that you can think of and hope for is the moment that both of you will come together, patch things up, apologize to each other, and make up for the time you've lost. Many people would think that it will never be possible, but then let me tell you that in fact, it is. You can do simple things to make this happen. It's just a matter of knowing what SHOULD and SHOULDN'T be done.
Your desire to get back your ex will make you do most of the desperate actions one could ever imagine. You will most likely chase after your ex, probably stalk you ex, succumb to a deep depression, and avoid social life. That's understandable. However, let me tell you that doing these things won't win your ex girlfriend back.
Chasing your ex by bombarding her with SMS messages, phone calls, emails, etcetera will only make your ex to fear you and even hate you. They probably wanted to have some space and time alone and doing these things will only make them feel repulsive of you even more.
Ambushing or stalking your ex is equally a big no-no. People will call you a desperate "stalker" and even you can attest to the fact that such isn't at all likeable, right? Being depressed and avoiding social life is another act that you must not do. It is understandable that you are feeling low because of what happened but submitting yourself to even more isolation and anxiety will do you no good at all. You'll just be punishing yourself even more. It will make you even more unlikable in the eyes of your ex, and you don't want that, do you?
Your ex probably left you because he or she didn't like certain things about you. So why not instead of putting yourself down, try to improve yourself?
Value yourself more. Probably do a little make-over of yourself to boost your confidence and esteem. Go to the gym, get a new haircut, and buy some new clothes. Try to repackage yourself bearing in mind that you're not worthless but worthy of someone else's affection. You probably have given your love to your ex when the two of you were together. This time, why don't you first learn to love yourself and make yourself worthy and capable of loving and being loved?
It may hurt a lot after a break-up. When I said that you do not chase or stalk your ex, it doesn't mean that you are to seize and drop all communication between you. Begin by staying in touch by sending occasional messages. This will let your ex know that you still care, and that you are still open to him or her coming back.
However, DO NOT overdo it. Let your ex seek you and come to you. You probably might have realized already that life is not worth living without him. Now is the time for your ex to realize that as well. Learn how to wait while hoping for the best.
True love stems from a feeling of trust- trust on the person you love, and trust that good things will happen at the right time. Personally, shun away the belief that tells you some things are either meant to be or not. To me, this gives you the option of giving up when you feel the chips are not falling in your favor.
What you need to stick to mind is that "there's always a way." No matter how hard it may seem, you can and will always win your ex girlfriend back with determination and faith.
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