It has been a long month but I am feeling better and I am making progress with my makeover – my
Mum told me I was looking really well ! I have had a few dates as well and got a bit of my confidence back. So the cool–off period is over and I have been through lots of emotions and also learned to rationalise and think clearly about my feelings for my ex.
The question now is :- Am I ready to contact my ex again ? Well, I am NOT desperate or panicky so that is a good sign and I am ready to move on with life. Once my ex senses that I am desperate I am going to lose a lot of points and that could well be my downfall. I must have the right mindset and the method below has taught me that.
Time to make the contact. How do I do it ? A phone call is OK. And it is going to be a quick get together – nothing too demanding or lengthy. I am not going to fall into the trap of saying ‘I want to talk to you ‘. My plan is to be seen by my ex and I am going to look really good and radiate self confidence. The method below has taught me how to do that. Also my secret strategy is that I can give off lots of great vibes and cancel out the bad ones
It has to be an enjoyable thing we used to do together. Also I am going to call well ahead – I need some more time to plan the meeting. So I am giving my ex about a week. This is really important.
How do I act during the phone call? First I will have to make sure that it is the right time of day or evening when I know my ex is fairly free of commitments and even more importantly they are alone and can talk in private. There is nothing worse if s/he is going somewhere with a group of friends.
I am going to be very friendly and in a good mood – maybe chat about some nice thing that happened recently. Great chance here to say - ‘You know, that reminded me of the time we used to go to that restaurant ‘ This of course is a happy memory for both of you. Once I feel that the rapport is more or less like it used to be in the good times, I will suggest a meeting – the best ones are lunch or coffee.
I am then going to suggest a date ( a week ahead) and a time and place but also I am going to be quite crafty here and say that it has to be pretty short (say half an hour) as I have to be at the dentists' at whatever time. This should set my ex's mind at rest in case they are thinking that it is going to be a long painful sessions going over old arguments.
The link below will teach me how to approach this all important meeting and some really good strategies to win my ex back . Way to go !
