At the heart of healing is an experience. It is the experience of being willing and able to be in the moment with your feelings. No matter how awful or repulsive or spectacular they may be, to allow yourself to stay there and feel what is there to be felt. Of course you know as well as I do we are so very creative when it comes to finding ways of mood altering out of the present moment. Alcohol, drugs, food, shopping, gambling, sex, the internet, all come to mind as ways and means of...

Occasionally on my continuing journey into greater self awareness I come upon a little ‘nugget’ of an experience that while small on the surface hints at a much larger idea if pursued deeper.  My latest ‘nugget’ occurred in a place no more mundane than my gym’s sauna where I was able to ‘pick out’ those fellow gym members who were more self absorbed and narcissistic and compare them to others who were on the other extreme of courteous and...

Want something to do in the evenings when you’re bored or lonely?  What if you could gather a group of your friends to your home after dinner once a week to have a fun friends’ study group?  No special training required for a fun friend’s study group, only a favorite book of your choosing that is therapist recommended. Be sure you feel safe belonging to a group of this kind.  If not, decide to seek professional help. The following are fun friends’...

Think long term

One of the biggest causes of unhappiness is the pursuit of short term happiness. This is a simple truth that is often not appreciated by people: i.e. "I do everything I can to make myself happy so why am I so miserable?" There is a always a quick route to happiness that we can take. For some this might include skipping work, eating fast food, dropping household chores and going for a drink. The problem with short term strategies is that this is...

A reader might judge me as wise or lame! How then is it possible to guess who I am? I am not the only one thinking on the same line. But there are times when I think I am the only one with such brains. I am even capable of imagining myself in the lowest pit of the society. I seek help, I seek knowledge, I seek pain, I seek comfort, and I even seek undefined love. I know am a human-but wait; is not mass the quantity of matter a body contains? Am I that large mass of cognizance? Who...

Sometimes even when we don't like the way things are, we still feel some sense of security in the 'known', and thus we react with fear and hostility when we sense something is changing around us. When someone close to us begins to consciously change, we can feel threatened, and it brings out some deep insecurities we may not be...

The Enneagram is one of the many personality profiling systems in the world today. However, its origins remain relatively unclear. There are groups of people who believe that the Enneagram first originated in the 10th or 11th century among the Sufi, which is a mystical sect of Islam. There are also others who believe that the Enneagram existed much earlier, back in 2500 B.C. in Babylon, the middle east of today.

Regardless of when the Enneagram was created, it still remains a very...

The Enneagram is made up of nine points on a circle, each represented by a number from one to nine. The numbers are used to keep things neutral, and a larger digit doesn't mean a more superior personality type.

The nine points represent the nine basic personality types of course, and each type is connected to two others through the interconnecting lines. To have a better idea of how the Enneagram looks like, simply visit SuccessWithCommunication.com.

The lines show very...

You can do it anywhere you happen to be- whether home, office, motel-room, on the road - as long as you have your laptop with you. No matter where you live, whether a block away from your therapist's office, or in another continent, as long as that therapist offers online therapy, you speak the same language, and you find him/her likeable, knowledgeable and reliable, you can choose your therapist on that basis, instead of on the basis of location.

You can do it anytime.For...

Writing is therapeutic! In fact, James Pennebaker, PhD., a psychologist and researcher, has conducted studies that show enhancement in immune system functioning and emotional well being when research participants write about difficult or traumatic events in their lives.

You may have questions about what type of writing would be most helpful for you and how to get started. Would it be journaling, writing poetry, free-writing, meditation and writing, morning pages (see The...